Life is full of circumstances that can interrupt your peace. While you are living, there is no way around it. Learning how to navigate through these obstacles is the only way to keep pressing forward each day. Decompressing after something sucks out your energy is important. Whether it’s after a long, exhausting week of work, a vacation, or a stressful moment in your life. Decompressing can help recharge your energy and give you strength to move forward.


Take a break and take a deep breath. Relax your mind and just breathe. Getting so riled up can cause anxiety and just make you feel even more tired than you already feel. So, stretch and breathe to relax those tense muscles of yours.


To further relax those tense muscles, get a massage. Rub the aches and tension out of your body. Great massages are God sent and it makes you feel like you’re walking on air without a care in the world. If you don’t like massages, do something else that will relax your body. Take a hot bath with some Epsom salt, some oils, bath bombs, or your favorite bath bubbles. Take a moment to just sit in the tub without any outside distractions. Leave your phone outside the bathroom or out of arm’s reach. Turn on your favorite playlist and chill.



Along with prayer, I also meditate quite often when I’m having a rough time. I usually pray, meditate, and pray again. Meditation helps me decompress and clear my mind. Quite often my mind runs so rampant with thoughts—I’m unable to rest. Some nights I lay still in bed in complete darkness, but with my mind moving so much, it feels like I’m in the middle of rush hour in Times Square. Crowded—busy—congested—with scattered thoughts, memories, worries, and sometimes pain. Meditation calms me and puts my body and mind at ease.

Refocus your energy.

Put positive energy towards something else. What are you passionate about? What do you like to do? Take the time to put positive energy somewhere. For example, I love babies and sweet senior citizens, so I may volunteer. I like volunteering at elementary schools, Boys and Girls clubs, and even nursing homes. I also like volunteering at women’s shelters. Helping others puts me in a different mind frame. It helps put things in perspective for me. Things I may worry and stress about, seem trivial after putting my energy towards something else. I love volunteering with kids because children really brighten my day. It always makes me feel good to be able to help the next person. Take time and do something you enjoy. Do something that makes you feel great. Whether that is DIY projects, getting your nails done, wine with friends, etc.

Write it out.

This is probably my favorite technique. I write quick notes in my journal or my notepad in my phone daily. Sometimes I need to write my feelings and thoughts down to lift them from my shoulders. I have days where I feel so down and out of it, that I need to write it down for it to leave me. Some days when you want to reach out to your friends and/or loved ones and no one answers the phone; write. If you need someone to talk to but you’re alone, write. Sometimes I would like to share things, but I don’t really want to talk to anyone, so I write it instead.


Get moving.

Exercise your mind and body. Workout just to get your body moving and your blood flowing. Sometimes, when I just decide to take a walk around the state park, I often find relief. It’s the act of moving and nature combined that usually calms me and puts me in a better place. Running on the treadmill, lifting weights, yoga, Pilates, swimming etc. all help with relieving stress and clearing your mind.

These are a few things that help me decompress, but I’m interested in hearing what helps you when you’re having a rough time. What helps you decompress after a challenging time?

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